Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Funny but true.

Just want to share this with you...

HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS

This would give you guides on how to control your emotions towards your better-half, friends, officemates and all the people around you, especially your "boss ". The rules of practicing "ugaling langit, ugaling kaaya-aya" :

#1 Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna.

#2 Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi kayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa inyo.

#3 Ang taong galit, 'bingi.' If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so, don't try to explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili nya.

#4 Ang taong galit, 'abnoy.' Ayon sa pastor, Biblical daw ito? because the Lord said when He was crucified, "Father, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang ginagawa." Modern term for these kinds of people are abnoys, so you better not get angry para huwag kang matawag na abnoy.

You should also know and realize that the persons who make your day bad are jewel, because you need them for you to mature. Hangga't andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. God will not take away those people; it's for you to take away your bad feelings towards them. You'll know na mature ka na pag dumating 'yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them.

#5 Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself na, because of this

person, "I will grow mature," and that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NIYA SA

MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD (hopefully... SOON!). "

Funny. Yes? Yet something to think about...

Tuesday, September 27, 2005

Forgive

In the well-known passage of the Gospel called the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus teaches us to love our enemies - in fact, to "bless" those who persecute us. But it wasn't just a sermon. As his unmistakably compassionate plea from the cross shows - "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do" - he practiced what he preached. So did Stephen, the first Christian martyr, who prayed much the same thing as he was being stoned to death: "Father, do not hold this against them."

Many people dismiss such an attitude as self-destructive foolishness. How and why should we embrace someone intent on harming or killing us? Why not fight back in self-defense?

For me, the act of forgiveness carries a lot of power. It is an assertion of one's dignity to have the means and ability to forgive...It may be difficult to understand, because it turns conventional logic on its head, but idealistically speaking, I think that if there is to be peace, there has to be forgiveness...

Probably no admonition of Jesus has been more difficult to follow than the command to love our enemies. Some people have sincerely felt that its actual practice is not possible. It is easy, they say, to love those who love you, but how can one love those who openly and insidiously seek to defeat you...?

Far from being the pious injunction of a Utopian dreamer, the command to love one's enemy is an absolute necessity for our survival. Love even for our enemies is the key to the solution of the problems of our world. Jesus is not an impractical idealist; he is the practical realist...

Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction...

Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend. We never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity. By its very nature, hate destroys and tears down; by its very nature, love creates and builds up. Love transforms with redemptive power.

We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. Whoever is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. It is impossible even to begin the act of loving one's enemies without the prior acceptance of the necessity, over and over again, of forgiving those who inflict evil and injury upon us.

It is also necessary to realize that the forgiving act must always be initiated by the person who has been wronged, the victim of some great hurt, the recipient of some tortuous injustice, the absorber of some terrible act of oppression. The wrongdoer may request forgiveness. They may come to themselves, and like the prodigal son, move up some dusty road, their heart palpitating with the desire for forgiveness. But only the injured neighbor, the loving father back home, can really pour out the warm waters of forgiveness.

Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It means, rather, that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship. Forgiveness is a catalyst creating the atmosphere necessary for a fresh start and a new beginning...

To our most bitter opponents we say: We shall match your capacity to inflict suffering by our capacity to endure suffering. We shall meet your physical force with soul force. Do to us what you will, and we shall continue to love you.

We cannot in all good conscience obey your unjust laws, because no cooperation with evil is as much a moral obligation as is cooperation with good. Throw us in jail, and we shall still love you. Send your hooded perpetrators of violence into our community at the midnight hour and beat us and leave us half dead, and we shall still love you. But be ye assured that we will wear you down by our capacity to suffer.

One day we shall win our freedom, but not only for ourselves. We shall so appeal to your heart and conscience that we shall win you in the process and our victory will be a double victory.

When people hate, its power engulfs them and they are totally consumed by it...Keep struggling against hatred and resentment. At times you will have the upper hand; at times you will feel beaten down. Although it is extremely difficult, never let hatred completely overtake you...

Never stop trying to live the commandment of love and forgiveness. Do not dilute the strength of Jesus’ message; do not shun it; do not dismiss it as unreal and impractical. Do not cut it to your size, trying to make it more applicable to real life in the world. Do not change it so that it will suit you. Keep it as it is, aspire to it, desire it, and work for its achievement.

Far from leaving us weak and vulnerable, forgiveness is empowering, both to the person who grants it and the one who receives it. In bringing true closure to the most difficult situations, it allows us to lay aside the riddles of retribution and human fairness, and to experience true peace of heart. Finally, it sets into motion a positive chain reaction that passes on the fruits of our forgiveness to others.

An Article by Johann Christoph Arnold


Wednesday, September 21, 2005

Kiddie Birthday

last Sunday was my niece's first birthday celebration... and it was a blast! hehehe. As I've said on my previous post, I semi-coordinated it. I enjoyed that day so much as the kids did!

Alyssa's my favorite niece because she's the youngest.. Nakakatuwa. I pray that God will give us also a daughter as intelligent, smart and as beautiful as her.

Anyways....here's some of the pics taken during her party...

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.::. with mommy .::.

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.::.birthday cake -- Disney Princess Theme .::.


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.::. Games! Games! .::.

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.::. Alyssa's Banner.::.

Friday, September 16, 2005

Mindoro

I thoughtI already lost the pictures of our Mindoro trip, Jerry's home town. Buti na lang I found it. We went there after our honeymoon.

Here are some of them...as you can see, kasama namin ang parents ko. hehehe (bantayan daw ba ako??). Their balaes asked them to come. Another feast will be prepared for us there so its better if my parents are present din.




we had a wonderful time at Mindoro. Next time sa Baler naman...

Thursday, September 15, 2005

Sisters

My Sister

My sister is my heart.
She opens doors to rooms
I never knew were there,
Breaks through walls
I don't recall building.
She lights my darkest corners
With the sparkle in her eyes.

My sister is my soul.
She inspires my wearied spirit
To fly on wings of angels
But while I hold her hand
My feet never leave the ground.
She stills my deepest fears
With the wisdom of her song.

My sister is my past.
She writes my history
In her eyes I recognize myself,
Memories only we can share.
She remembers, she forgives
She accepts me as I am
With tender understanding.

My sister is my future.
She lives within my dreams
She sees my undiscovered secrets,
Believes in me as I stumble
She walks in step beside me,
Her love lighting my way.

My sister is my strength
She hears the whispered prayers
That I cannot speak
She helps me find my smile,
Freely giving hers away
She catches my tears
In her gentle hands.

My sister is like no one else
She's my most treasured friend
Filling up the empty spaces
Healing broken places
She is my rock, my inspiration.
Though impossible to define,
In a word, she is...my sister.

Poem by Lisa Lorden




It is good to have sisters. Someone whom you can really share ideas with, tell your secrets, shop with, and many more!... I have 4 sisters. Two of them, older than me, are already married, like me!. Two still had no boyfriends...but good for them. I think they're still young. But I love my sisters and I'm so proud to have them.

Truth. We're not perfect. We fight, lalo na when we're still young. Of course, what do you expect with five girls?? we wrestle with each other at times..... we even hurt each other's feelings ..but we never forget the fact that we're sisters. And whatever happens we've got each other..ALWAYS.

I'm glad that though we had different lives now that we've grown, we still have time to spent with each other. So I treasure each moment.

Tuesday, September 13, 2005

Random

Jerry is sick. (sigh..) I don't know what but he is not feeling realy well since Friday. I keep on telling him to go and see a doctor but he refuses. Maybe its migrane.. In times like this, I just want him to see that I really care. I digress.

I'm thinking, is it really okay to work in Dubai? Some of my officemates are already there and others are following. My husband is now gathering his documents for a possible employment in Dubai. His friend who is also a registered nurse is already leaving for Jedah on the 3oth. He's the one who told Jerry to submit his requirements to the agency for Dubai based position.

I know Jerry really wants to work abroad. If it's God's will, I know there won't be any problem. But the thought of us being miles away really saddens me. Again, I digress.

My one week time with hubby will be over. He will be going back to Baler tomorrow. But still, I'm thankful that he was able to spend a weekend with me. We had a wonderful weekend although he's a little sick. We're able to spend wonderful time together. We watched movie, ate together (at last, I didn't eat alone for a week!), we washed dishes together... talked about something or even little things. Basta we're together...surely, I'll miss him again.

Baler is just an 8 hr drive from Manila...not so far....but what more if he's in Dubai? hmmm...I digress a little more.


(ate ana and my niece, Alyssa- she's just six months here)
It's my niece's birthday party on Sunday...


I will be a grand first birthday party and I'm coordinating it.

Jerry will not be able to attend nanaman... he's torn between the party and the Marriage Encounter Seminar which he coordinated in Baler. Sayang... he wants me to come with him pa naman to attend the seminar.
Hope I can schedule my visit to Baler this month. hmmm... I'll take a one day leave for that.

Thursday, September 08, 2005

Tagged

I was again tagged by Heidi... well, here's my answers to that 7 things...

Seven Things That Scare Me
1.) Losing a loved-one
2.) Travelling by boat
3.) Crawling insects (specially cockroaches!)
4.) Meeting an accident or being robbed
5.) Dark rooms
6.) Fire
7.) Not having a baby

Seven Things I Like The Most
1.) Shopping
2.) Spending time with my loved-ones
3.) Cooking
4.) Potato chips and french fries
5.) Music and Singing
6.) Watching my favorite TV programs
7.) Going on vacation

Seven Random Facts About Me
1.) I'm the 3rd a mong 6 siblings and third bride as well
2.) I love drawings and crafts
3.) I'm a member of our church's worship team
4.) I'm a thinker and a reader
5.) I'm married to a registered nurse cum pastor.
6.) I don't drink coffee
7.) I'm very much time conscious. ( I hate waiting. Lalo na if I'll be meeting with someone, I don't want my time to be wasted)

Seven Important Things In Our Bedroom
1.) Bed
2.) My four pillows
3.) Electric Fan/AC
4.) Bible
5.) Devotional Book
6.) Night cream
7.) cellphone

Seven Things I Plan To Do Before I Die
1.) Be well established
2.) Buy a house
3.) Go out of the country..or tour around the world(to share the gospel!)
4.) Have children
5.) Put up our own business
7.) Be multi lingual

Seven Things I Can Do
1.) I can sing...ehem..ehem!
2.) I can cook..hehehe (visit my multiply account for recipes--naks)
3.) I can make my own accessories (earings, bracelets...made of beads)
4.) I can plan a big event (like my wedding!)
5.) I can do basic photoshopping
6.) I can spend hours and hours on the computer
7.) I can live a day without TV

Seven Things I Can't Do
1.) I can't drive...but I'm learning
2.) I can't work without music
3.) I can't dance in front of a crowd
4.) I can't eat squash
5.) I can't speak french but I have plans on taking lessons
6.) I can't swim...(though I had swimming class back in college and got a high rating on midterm and finals .. Gosh! I forgot everything I've learned...or am I simply SCARED to try?)
7.) I can't eat exotic food

Seven Things That Attract Me To The Opposite Sex
1.) Love for God
2.) Great sense of humor
3.) Sense of responsibility
4.) Smart and creative
5.) Ability to express himself (whether in words or in deed)
6.) Self-confidence (just the right amount)
7.) His way of grooming and hygiene

Seven Things I Say The Most
1.) Why?
2.) Hi!
3.) Goodness!
4.) Sure
5.) Ows?
6.) Shocks!
7.) Please

Seven Celeb Crushes (Whether Local or Foreign)
1.) Gary V.
2.) Pierce Brosnan
3.) Ben Afleck
4.) Viggo Mortesen (if he's Aragorn of LOT)
5.) Keanu Reeves
6.) Ridchard Gere
7.) siempre....Jerry ko.

Seven People You Want To See Take This Quiz
1.) Toni
2.) Mai
3.) Dionne
4.) Inch
5.) Meng
6.) Aggie
7.) Grace